Let's kiss and make up {Written for Redbrick, Lifestyle}

There’s absolutely nothing sexier than completely hating the fact you love someone. That no matter how frustrated you get with them, how angry they make you and how volatile your relationship is, you still think their hot and after hours of relentless fighting the classic conclusion ensures. I am of course talking about the sordid violence and irresistible anger that can only be produced by make-up sex.

Now don’t misinterpret this article as a good excuse to go and pick a fight with your partner just so you can submit to their view an hour or so later and for want of a better expression do them into next week. That just really isn’t how this works. It’s more of a gamble, an epiphany of your adoration of someone even while their incessantly screaming at your for something you haven’t done. It’s amazing how reciprocate your lover is during the ten seconds immediately after throwing her GHDs at you. This is the time to strike, a tentative hug is a great olive branch to extend with, and take the standard slap that will most definitely follow. It’s only then the mind shifts, and quickly at that from the ‘I hate this idiot who the hell does he think he is’ mentality to more of a, ‘I’ve partially assaulted him, insulted his entire circle of friends and he’s still stood here smiling at me.’

It’s a fairy tale moment let me tell you and so worth saying the forbidden word (whispering makes the moment cheesy so try to speak softly but not like a Hollywood movie star.) One second the word ‘sorry’ is leaving your lips, the next minute their being joined by the same pair that were roaring at you a minute previously, and all of a sudden you’re on the fringes of a most exciting and dramatic sex scene. Not to be overly explicit but clothes may be damaged and bed-springs may well be broken.

Moving on now to the emotional side of this issue before we get too involved in more of the above. If any of you can relate to this scenario then you’ll all know that it’s kind of what being in love with somebody’s all about. Loving someone even when they’re the most annoying, evil person on the planet and riding the waves the sea of love throws at you. As often happens in more long term partnerships these scenes may become more frequent when a couple overcomes the stage of tentative, love making that might define the fledgling months of the relationship. That does not mean to say they are necessarily a good omen, even though during the heat of the moment it all seems pretty damn hot.

Love alone might not be enough to hold a hostile couple together, and if potentially home-wrecking arguments persist on a regular basis the overwhelming capabilities of make-up sex might not cut it when the straw breaks the camel’s back. It’s a short term solution even though it might not feel like it as you’ll feel happier than ever together during the post-sex cuddle wondering what you were even arguing about. The fact is, you were arguing about something and it hasn’t really been resolved, meaning that it’s bound to crop up again. So in order to make the relationship work: have all the angry make-up sex you like, but for the more delicate issues of interfering ex’s or irrational paranoia, the only remedy is compromise and communication.