Where is the love?

I’m going to do my utmost not to turn this into a complete and utter rant however; this week’s topic is one which has been driving me a bit mental as of late. I’m in second year now and there appears to have been some kind of revolutionary movement in everybody’s minds that has basically caused them to have become obsessed with the idea of getting hooked up. Now I’ve been in relationships myself before believe it or not and I’m not trying to say that it’s a bad thing at all. With that said; is it really something that you want to live your life in constant pursuit of? What on earth has happened to the age old clichés of ‘There’s someone out there for everyone’ and ‘You find love when you’re not looking for it’?


As I’ve said I am in no way trying to discredit the joys and pleasures of being in a relationship with somebody you love because it’s one of the most enjoyable and secure feelings in the world. But there really are dangers of being over-zealous in your pursuit of Mr / Miss Right. Firstly you can end up scaring off potential partners with what they might perceive as a freaky enthusiasm to settle down and live happily ever after. How many times do you hear your friends complaining that a fledgling relationship is moving far too fast for their liking? It’s a big step to make and not one to be taken lightly by anybody. If somebody doesn’t seem hell bent on a practical engagement after a month or so of going out together it’s no scorn on you they may just need more time than you to adjust to the taken lifestyle. Lest we forget most of us have returned off the back of one of the worst behaved years of our lives regarding the opposite sex!

The second danger is that you dive headfirst into a relationship with somebody you don’t really know well enough and experience the sour side of love. Don’t give yourself away wearing your hearts on your sleeves just because somebody may seem compatible they might not necessarily be right for you. It’s a bigger commitment now than it was in high school and just because somebody’s quite attractive and likes the same music as you that doesn’t mean you should be writing your wedding vows after a week of knowing them.

For those of you that are a little the other way and are so scared of commitment that you’ll pick fault with the most perfect potential partner you’ll ever come across it’s perfectly normal to be a little confused. If you take things at your own pace and keep yourself at arm’s length until you’re ready to take dating to another level you never know how well things might turn out. Don’t beat yourself up about not falling head over heels in love with somebody straight away even, it doesn’t always feel right at first.

So to wrap up I think people need to just value themselves a little more. So what if a lot of your friends are settled down it doesn’t mean it’s a new fashion trend that you have to follow. Be honest with yourselves when it comes to how serious or casual you want relationships and dating to be and certainly don’t feel pressured into being convinced that somebody is your Mr / Miss Right. After all, beauty is in the eye of the beholder!