Wait or Date? {Redbrick Article}

I’m sat at home relaxing in front of the television and waiting for a text. I’ve been waiting for a good while now for the latest love interest to reply to a message I sent her yesterday. Am I beginning to feel more and more into her with every second that passes that she ignores me? Is it keeping me guessing as to whether she’s some kind of international woman of mystery and I should feel honoured when she eventually finds time in her day to text me back? Unfortunately not I’m afraid! Actually I’m just beginning to tire of the scenario and think she’s clearly either not interested or playing annoying games designed to impress me. In actual fact, I’m this close to just texting the girl I met last night and see how long it takes her to respond.

We’ve all been there, boys and girls alike and we’ve all got our techniques of defying the conventions of texting in order to make ourselves more attractive by keeping a safe distance. The only advice is you’re walking a tightrope if you think the constant gaming isn’t going to irritate people, and irritate them fairly quickly at that. So the next time you receive a text, write a reply, save it to your drafts and send it four hours later to keep him / her waiting, think about just how honest you’re actually being with yourself never mind the person who’s going to forget they’re even expecting a text from you after ten minutes without reply.

If you genuinely feel there’s a romantic flame with somebody why feel compelled to play them like a game? We all want the movie-made relationship but there’s nothing romantic about basically ignoring somebody for two days and then getting back to them with absolutely no apology or explanation. Do you want someone to fall for the you that grins and giggles a bit when they receive a text from somebody who makes them feel a little weird inside? Or do you want to trick somebody into thinking your some kind of unemotional machine who couldn’t give one about whether they’re falling into an infatuation or not?

To conclude I’d like to finish by saying that as a lad who’s confident and self respecting enough not to chase every girl that passes his line of sight (unless he’s had a few!), I won’t be waiting by the phone for you to text me back no matter who you are. I’ll think a lot more of you if you play an honest game and show me the same respect by replying as soon as comfortably possible. So let’s cut the games out and stop messing each other around. If someone doesn’t explain themselves after keeping you waiting for days, they’re just not worth your time or 10p for a text. If love is really a game, then we can use one of the age old principles of the beautiful game in saying that attack is the best form of defence in the pursuit of the winning goal!